Trying to get our ducks in a row...

The thought of having a child has crossed our minds several times in the last month or so, both of us have always wanted to have children, however we were a little nervous about bringing a baby into a world where there is so much hate revolved around same-sex couples. After much thought and discussion around the subject we both knew in our hearts that we wanted a family together and that we should not be denied the right to it because of ignorance. While I am very excited about documenting our story through blogs I am also a little weary of doing so because I don't want to be judged by anyone. I know most people would say that Jess and I are too young to have a child or that we haven't been together long enough, you would have to know us and know the love that we have for one another to understand. The connection that Jess and I have is one that is unexplainable. I will never be able to put into words what she means to me. I know without a doubt that I am going to spend the rest of my life with her. We moved to Savannah in December to start our "fairy tale". We fought hard for our fairy tale and we were persistent through all of the trials and tribulations and we made it.

When Jess and I figure out that we want something the first thing we do is research everything there is to know about it so that we are educated in every possible way on the subject. We have started doing this with the process of AI. I'm not going to lie about it, it has been overwhelming to say the least. There are so many things to consider and ideas to toy around with. I'm sure everyone at first feels a little overwhelmed with the process. However, Jess and I both know in our hearts this is what we want and we are going to fight for it with all that we have. Now the first thing was figured out for us. We knew Jess was going to carry the baby and give birth, because I cannot do so due to health issues when I was younger. I have always wanted to be able to go through the experience of being pregnant and having a child grow in me but it wasn't in the cards for me and I am very glad that I will be able to be there every step with Jess.

We are still in the gather your information stage where we are reading blogs of people who have been through it, researching sperm banks, talking over details. I will admit I think we were both a little naive when we first thought about having a child. We both assumed it always happened on the first try (crazy I know), we quickly learned differently. So now we are just trying to get our ducks in a row and figure all of this information out.

♥Heather